27th Wisdom

 

Because we do not have all the time in this world, what if I compile some personal wisdom that I have found and carried along in daily life—personally as individual. Mostly subjective, absurd, random, arousing questions and TMI.

1. Apple Music has way better audio quality than Spotify. As an Android and Spotify user for years, this discovery could be a deal breaker to stay in Android.

2. Your boss and colleagues will like you more if you are tending to listen. Just be an active listener, gather information and answer the question. The rest communication is not actually necessary.

3. You get bored with everything you used to enjoy. But losing interest also brings you to another perspective of what you used to hate, and then you actually try something new in those processes.

4. Fasting is starving yourself for good purposes. Diet, eating disorders, spiritual devotion, etc are in fact solved by fasting.

5. Be brave enough to lower your guard and then up your awareness around—especially strangers. Just believe that sometimes our instinct will protect us from bad things and attract good things. If it is a nice thing, you will have a good day.

6. Having separate phones for work and personal matters is not necessarily needed. At the end of the day, your judgment of importance and urgency was strengthened to handle out-of-work hours messages.

7. Free Palestine!

8. More and more paying attention to your dental and oral health. Just imagine you will be kissed by someone every day, that kind of motivation will keep you from smelly breath.

9. Thoughtful gifts are cool. You are an adult, you must take the time to think about what gift to bring and hopefully, you have the money to spend.

10. When someone checks on you, and with the complexity going around, if you did not bother to respond any other day ahead, you are an asshole even if deep down you feel grateful.

11. You start to question: “Does the likeness to certain celebrities feel lame?”
Well, all we do is find distraction which is camouflaged with self-satisfaction. Call it happiness or coping mechanism, just enjoy the excitement.

12. Inevitable judging “She/He/They should’ve known better” to your family and friends are the act of ignorance. Check on them!

13. Basic potential most likely revealed in the second year after your quarter life. If you must know more about the hidden potential of yourself, then go on, if you are fine with all you got in the present, that is realistic.

14. Travelling requires good fit and funds to support the feeling of “all-in” or “YOLO”. You don’t have both? No judgment for those people who choose to sleep in on their holiday.

15. Dude who wasn’t interested in you will let everything doesn’t happen. Dude who occasionally finds you, he is definitely just a friend.

16. From now on, you will fancy walking more than everything else.

17. The 4-hour conversation with the acquaintance becomes regular thing you need once in a month. There also goes the skill of being a good conversationalist.

18. The guts to cut off friendship was done without conversation. You are being careless with one existence and before you know it, the gap is already big anyway.

19. There is so many layers in low-maintenance friendships. With everything that happens in life, focusing on yourself is understandable and should be. Instead, if the balance on receiving approach was much more than you did on your friends, you are self-loving selfish.

20. It is too much for someone who ever dealt with grief expected to be a reliable person. But if they become it, give them hug and offer help while you can.

21. Free Palestine!

22. Stick to your groceries list, tick your to-do list with honesty.

23. Being lonely makes you impulsive. Having a company requires more money.

24. Submit reimbursement for anything that is allowed by your company. Take it for granted.

25. Guard your fundamentals, being more practical to our religion, and be conservative just for yourself.

26. Pray for your parents, do them good for given circumstances.

27. Manage your expectations for all the things you’ve always pray for. Brace yourself for the outcome.

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Iam.

 

The thoughtful gifts from Iam and Nilem for my first trip to SK.

On every turn I took when commute, there are always certain thoughts that leads by what is revolving on that moment.

Say it could be the view from what I saw upfront, the other drivers that shows how they actually not worthy to get the driver license, the songs that were played, the singer that sang it, the sudden thoughts when remembered old days, the old habits that no longer called as habits, old freaky embarrasing moments when I young or something like that.

One morning, a simple question from my brain, asking: "What's good for this weekend?"

As if this brain know how to works, it tells me, "Ohiya, you have that one re-scheduled plan to meet your friends." My serotonin peaks up immediately.

Thoughts after thoughts, questions after questions that leads to answers were cued in my brain and finally I have that one "GONG" that made me encountered one hard truth reality: "It's feel like forever I haven't meet this friend."

Immediately strucked my body when my brain decided to answer: "Yes you are, but he is no longer here."

Actually, suppresing that kind of feelins at that time was easy because first, I am experienced. Second, I was consumed by the urge to get to the office and get things done. Third, I was good showering myself to some distractions as simple as building up my concentration on the road. Most importantly, I do not let myself to be vurnerable in the morning when I had to keep my mind straight to get paid. Because setting up those feelings aside is our self defense mechanism and nature to doing so.

Then I remembered this saying when said the people that coming into our life would brings all of their lives along. When they left us, the memories stays and remains as if its their fault to leaving those behind... when the truth is that's just how we are holding onto them.

One fact: this friend shared a lot of interest things with me or any other my friends mostly. He gets excited when telling what he like, because who didn't? His jokes was alive, the gossip told by him was a top-notch, and I could hear the laughs resonated between spaces and that's why I was always happily, playfully, silly laughing when it comes to be in shared spaces with him.

The cool thing that I love about this friend is that he was vocal about what he likes and doesn't like. Being go getter than following what's others common things is one value that I implement also to myself. From that value, both me and him or kind of this people were keeping the bridge open but carefully selecting people who can or cannot pass the gate.

When finally the shuffle of my playlist lands to the one of singer of his favourites, I cannot help doing nothing but breakdown in the morning. This shows that even did I was familiar mustered up with grieving, I cannot believe that I had to make one more room for this friend as long as I live. He did come along and brings all his part of life to his friends and I cannot unlearn what he already brought to us.

What I want to pursue with this writings for  you is that I have always love the way you kept the spirit, Am. Even though this is a wasted paragraph but still, I am proud and happily contribute to write your memoir. I promise that the kindness, the manners, the passion that what makes you, you is worth to be compared with every single beautiful poem that has been written.

I know there were a lot of people who shares these adjectives, but it is you the special-selective person I know that have such qualities and thank you for being such a cool person that I miss dearly.

Also, glad to know one or two things on what you've liked and disliked because that is how the universe rings the bell when it is time to remember you for once in certain moments. 

I'll be sent you the prayer when it comes to it and I have already know that you greatly thankful when we did that for you. I miss you, and keep up with the smile up there! Love, always.

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